Date Rape

I suppose you’re familiar with that term? That term is very popular because similar cases happen quite often. Date Rape means violation committed during a date and by our dating partner or lover. Make no mistake… violation or rape isn’t only been done by strangers or someone we’ve never met before (or even our relatives like many cases reported on television news), even our lover / dating partner able to commit violation!

Beforehand, someone is considered of committing rape / violation when he is touching our private parts (such as breast or our genital) without our permission or even after we forbid / refuse to be touched. Maybe we think or feel that what our partner / lover did was based on love or affection and we don’t have the courage to refuse or to say “no!” or “don’t!” because we love that person too much we don’t have the heart to hurt that person.

Girls, your body belongs to you, so you have the rights to decide what can and cannot be done to your body. Love yourself and your body, don’t let anyone arrogates your rights and freedom to make choices and decision. Give an objective thought before you make a decision to allow your dating partner / lover to “touch” you or even to do furthermore. Ascertain yourself that you’re really sure and prepared with all the risks and consequences before “giving permission” to dating partner / lover, OK?

What’s also important is to brainstorm with your friends, both guys and girls, or even with parents, or through cyber media with sex education to convince yourself. Find information as much as you can about pre-marital sex’s risks. Remember, regret always comes late. You must be really-really aware, that every physical action happens between you and your partner could lead to further action. Always remember these steps: KNPI – Kissing Necking Petting Intercourse. It is not a secret that these are the steps in dating, we all must be aware of these. I, myself, respect everyone’s free will. If you feel that you’re ready to do “the whole package” which is KNPI even until the “I” step, it’s your right. My capacity is only to remind you to do everything with full awareness. Be aware that you have choice and the right to choose.

If you’ve reached the “K” step, think… “Am I ready for “N” step?” Never say, “My boyfriend wouldn’t dare.” Or “My boyfriend loves me, he wouldn’t do such thing.” Be aware! Everything could happen without planning, perhaps even unplanned by our partner, that’s why we have to be aware. Remember, doing “K” could lead us to “N” and doing “N” could lead us to “P” and doing “P” could lead us to “I”. And it’s even unnecessarily like that… by doing “K” could also lead us to “I”.

I will explain to you the definition of KNPI:

K = Kissing; kinds of kissing: kissing cheek, kissing forehead, peck, French kiss – includes tongue – danger level: stadium 4! N = Necking – danger level: stadium 5! P = Petting – danger level: stadium 9!! I = Intercourse – or making love or having sex – danger level: the D-Day. Hehehehehe…

Identify the signs of “the D-Day” through KNPI; you can also evaluate your date’s movement with KNPI. You’re the only person that has the strength to prevent Date Rape. Remember, if you feel uncomfortable with what your date do to you, ask him to stop doing it. If he doesn’t want to stop, it could be categorized as Date Rape, because all kinds of physical violation done by your date could be categorized as Date Rape. If you feel that you’re ready to do KNPI with your date, they do it, but with full awareness and deep thought. If you feel that you’re not ready to do KNPI, then don’t do it, ask your date not to do it. And you must be aware of all the risks and consequences of KNPI.